When I lost my job early this year, I was genuinely excited about the new adventure ahead of me because I knew this happened for a reason. Even though I was unhappy at the company, this layoff was a sign that I was meant to be doing something greater with my life.
I took it as a challenge to start a couple of side hustles while being a stay-at-home mother and caring for our toddler because that’s what I feel I am meant to be doing instead.
I thought that with a little faith, good time management, and organization, I could get through anything and keep going at 100 mph without any problem. So long as I kept the schedule, my husband, daughter, and I would all be fine.
Logically, I thought that being self-disciplined would keep us going until my side hustles start making enough money but that’s not what God had in the books for me. Things won’t always go as planned, and obstacles will cause you to fall off the train you were so confident would take you to your destination in no time.
I’ve been writing a lot about building self-discipline and boosting self-esteem because these are some of my biggest issues in life. I write as a form of therapy and learning process based on what I learn from others and my experience. However, something I haven’t talked about yet is we are all human, and naturally, we break, more than once.
The moment I thought things were finally going well and I was picking up a good pace, life hit me by reminding me that:
I have “big feelings” and sometimes I need to embrace them rather than trying to suppress them.
My toddler and husband also have big feelings or other issues preventing them from being at their best every day which will highly impact me.
There are unpredictable situations like a no-show nanny, a bad night of sleep, unexpected bills, slow business, etc.
Getting stuck into a snowball effect usually takes one thing to go wrong. Have you ever noticed that if you miss the gym once it gets even more difficult to return? The wider the gap, the more difficult it gets so typically I give up until I feel the urge to return (usually months later).
If you’ve also had similar issues with setting up too high of expectations for yourself and getting disappointed when you don’t meet them because of life, how about we do things differently this time?
Rather than considering ourselves a failure and fully giving up on something we enjoy doing because we broke once or twice, let’s take a break (or breaks) and acknowledge the small wins we had instead of biting ourselves up.
Let’s remember that we are human and it’s okay if,
We are not okay sometimes.
Our feelings are confusing us.
We take breaks.
We prioritize ourselves.
We change our mind.
We don’t know all the answers.
The most important thing is to get up and jump back on the next wagon so we don’t miss the train completely.
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